Carine Basimaki
(CARINE'S ONLINE NEWS FEATURE)
Student no. (09-0286)
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Parenting
By
Carine Basimaki
Every child
deserves good parenting which includes; good attention, care and love. I
realized a lot of parents abandon their children, leaving them to go on
streets. This has highly increased the rate of street children and orphanage
homes in this generation.
I would like to
say that, many times when we think of parenting, it is the mothers that come to
our minds. Parenting is not supposed to be left for mothers alone but by both
parents to practice, a mother and a father of the child.
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| During interview with Mrs Mabel Odima who is a sociologist and a development studies lecturer at Daystar University. |
Children need
both parents in their development stages.
At the age of 0 to 7 years, is when a child needs the mother most. The
father figure is need most from 7 years until the child is ready to take his or
her own responsibilities of life. That could be probably when they are getting
married. A father figure gives the child proper identification. This is where
the father provides the child with self esteem, identity, authority and
discipline which the mother may not provide.
“A woman is 100% feminine while a man 80% masculine
and 20% feminine, therefore a child needs all these characteristics from both
parents.” Says Mrs. Odima.
It is a
responsibility of all parents to provide food, shelter, education and security
for their children.
The relationship
between parents also matters when it comes to parenting. Parents should be
united to avoid conflicts. For example when a child wants to do something and
the mother denies, let the father be aware so that he should not end up giving
them permission. That means their answers should be similar. However, parents
should be free and open with their children. They should talk freely with their
parents and all this begins with parents finding better ways of approaching
children, allow them to speak out.
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During interview with Rev. Musyimi who is the assistant
chaplain at Daystar University.
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“A father should
be able to model his child well. Parenting is a sacrifice if you have no time
to raise children then, do not get them.” Says Rev. Musyimi
Lastly I would like to tackle the challenges parents go through during
parenting.
Parents should
know when their children are growing so that they treat them accordingly
depending on the age and stage they are.
Parents should
not compare their children because every child is special on their own way.
Parents must be
there for their children. One can catch up with careers, anything else but not
with your family. “You will lose your children in the name of chasing money.”
Says Rev. Musyimi.
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