Family Planning For Men

Carine Basimaki

(CARINE'S ONLINE NEWS FEATURE) 

Student no. (09-0286)

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Parenting

By

Carine Basimaki

Every child deserves good parenting which includes; good attention, care and love. I realized a lot of parents abandon their children, leaving them to go on streets. This has highly increased the rate of street children and orphanage homes in this generation.

I would like to say that, many times when we think of parenting, it is the mothers that come to our minds. Parenting is not supposed to be left for mothers alone but by both parents to practice, a mother and a father of the child.

During interview with Mrs Mabel Odima who is a sociologist and a development studies lecturer at Daystar University.

 

Children need both parents in their development stages.  At the age of 0 to 7 years, is when a child needs the mother most. The father figure is need most from 7 years until the child is ready to take his or her own responsibilities of life. That could be probably when they are getting married. A father figure gives the child proper identification. This is where the father provides the child with self esteem, identity, authority and discipline which the mother may not provide.

 “A woman is 100% feminine while a man 80% masculine and 20% feminine, therefore a child needs all these characteristics from both parents.” Says Mrs. Odima.

It is a responsibility of all parents to provide food, shelter, education and security for their children.

The relationship between parents also matters when it comes to parenting. Parents should be united to avoid conflicts. For example when a child wants to do something and the mother denies, let the father be aware so that he should not end up giving them permission. That means their answers should be similar. However, parents should be free and open with their children. They should talk freely with their parents and all this begins with parents finding better ways of approaching children, allow them to speak out.

During interview with Rev. Musyimi who is the assistant chaplain at Daystar University.

“A father should be able to model his child well. Parenting is a sacrifice if you have no time to raise children then, do not get them.” Says Rev. Musyimi

Lastly I would like to tackle the challenges parents go through during parenting.

Parents should know when their children are growing so that they treat them accordingly depending on the age and stage they are.

Parents should not compare their children because every child is special on their own way.

Parents must be there for their children. One can catch up with careers, anything else but not with your family. “You will lose your children in the name of chasing money.” Says Rev. Musyimi.